To develop long term memory which help us add to our innate knowledge and learn.

To build rapport and empathy which helps us to connect with others - to be able to stand in another’s shoes

To develop our imagination.  In using our imagination we turn our attention away from high emotional arousal and focus our minds  on problem solving. Doing so, we use our creativity and are more objective. This is a heathy use of imagination as opposed to a misuse of imagination in which we catastrophise and think mostly in black and white terms.

To dream.  Joe Griffin’s research has shown that the dreaming process defuses emotionally arousing expectations that have not been fulfilled in the previous waking period.  This defusion (a reducing of the amount of cortisol in the brain) allows us the space to meet the demands of the new day.

(See Dreaming Reality (2004) by Joe Griffin & Ivan Tyrrell. 

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To enter into our observing self.  This is our ability to be able to stand back and see ourselves as a unique centre of awareness - we are apart and separate from our thoughts and emotions (frontal lobes).

To question ourselves and check out our emotions by using our conscious, rational mind (left hemisphere).

To use our unconscious mind and know the world through a metaphorical process of pattern matching (right hemisphere).

We have these abilities:

memory box

long term memory


conscious brain


observing self

pattern matching

dreaming brain